New Security and Spam block

We added a few new security layers and spam blocker things today. If you have a problem logging in, or posting a message, then there could be an issue with the layers / blockers going overboard – so please let me know via private message, or maybe I’ll need to make a contact form as well.

We are looking for extra ways to block spammers and other nefarious people / bots trying to abuse our services here, so more extra security checks are likely coming. In some cases entire countries may be blocked from registering / logging in.

More info on this if people request it.

Pics and Videos Uploads Working Better

Several people were saying that pics and videos were not uploading properly. At first I thought this was a mobile device issue, but as more and more people were chiming in that large files were failing I did some digging. Found some settings that were changed a while back, but then got reverted when we had our big crash and rebuild in December. So I changed a couple of settings, and I think now uploads should work for pics and videos up to about 155MB.

I imagine there will be some folks who want to upload files larger than this, so I’ll keep an eye out for anything that has any issues with files larger than that. We have several options for handling things like this, but we may need to upgrade our web hosting server if lots of people start sharing huge videos like this. Of course I want people to be able to share awesome videos – so if we need to upgrade, or add in some kind of converter or splitter thing that may become an option.

For now I am focused on rebuilding our “how to” pages, and need to remake the graphics for the tutorials on how to do things like add pics and such. Of course if anyone wants to make some screen shots and graphics showing others how to use this place I’d love to see what others come up with. For now I think we fixed a majority of the issues with large pics and videos uploading.

Change profile pic

Hot to change your profile picture.

The steps below are just for your profile pic. If you just want to upload / share pics and videos to your profile / activity / album / etc – then read about that here:

This is shown using desktop computer. sizing and layout will be different on different sized screens. The drop to select cropping size may different with mobile devices as well. Hopefully this quick tutorial will give you enough info to easily find how to change the profile picture. If you find things are different when using your device, please share in the comments below to help others.

1 – Click change profile photo

2 – Either drag and drop a pic into the box below, or click “select your file” and it will open a window to file explore on your device.


The image will load in a box with “crop to size handles” – and another preview of the cropped image below that.

3 – Drag the corner of the square to change the size of the final cropped pic.

4 – Click “crop image”

It should now be saved and become your new profile photo.


Need your help – settings

Losing more than a years worth of work is devastating, and there is no way I can remember every word I wrote for how to posts, or every custom setting I put in place to make this place great.

Please help me put this back together by leaving comment on this post here about any missing settings / features / menus / how-to posts, well anything that you remember from our old setup that is not working right now.

I am working on getting the media uploader / pics / videos things re-setup – and am half way through the process of getting our new advanced chat system up and running.

Future needs will include a double backup system, and info for users on how they can export a backup of their own blog / site thing if they set that up.

I am almost in tears about this loss of data, I am so sorry to everyone that lost profiles, friends lists, blogs, all that.

With your help, even mentioning groups names that are no longer here, I will try to rebuild this.. even though much of it, like groups and blogs were built by users, I’ll do what I can to get it back and better than before.

So if you can think of / see anything that ain’t right, let me know so I can get a to do list here.

You will need to re-register, sorry

Looks like all data has been lost since Feb 2014 – I am o fucking pissed right now I can’t even think straight. There are so many posts, so many settings, so much custom code – I can’t even think of everything that is going to need to be re-built.

I’m going to sleep on this – then try to see what I can put back together… then get our brank new chat system up for testing.. then I’ll need everyone to remind of whatever things we had that are missing as we go back in time and try to reset everything.


Yeah, you’ll need to re-register.. all settings are borked.. photos, videos, blogs.. yep, the fucking database system pretty much controls everything.. fuck. All those how-to blog posts, and.. fuck.


fuck. fuck.

Major Crash – lost 9,000 members data

We had a major database crash. We are trying to pull some stuff from backups, but it looks like our backups had the crashed code within them.
We may not be able to get the data back. We are still trying – but it does not look good at this time.

Right now everything is back like how it was about a year ago – losing the data of about 9,000 members.. site blog posts.. all kinds of shit I can’t even think of right now.

This major sucks!

Trying to fix what is here.. still trying to get crashed backup repaired somehow.. going to have to think real hard about all the custom modifications that we did over the last year and how to re-deply them.. Thinking really hard how to make a thid backup system and how to test that it actually works.

Let this be a lesson for everyone else I guess – make a backup of you precious files.. pics and stuff – you never know when your system will crash and your backup plan may not work right.

This fucking sucks!

video problem fixed?

Update Dec 9th, 2015 – We fixed most of the video issues, however we did detect that some videos are still not working on most apple devices like iphones and ipads… and some web browsers fail to play videos with android tablets / phones – however I think most people can add mobile browser browser to their tablet / phone and actually see videos.

Our cosiing partners are currently working on and testing a new video conversation code that will hopefully make videos easier to watch on iphones / ipads in the near future – it’s not done quite yet, and they’ve been woking on this issue for a couple / few weeks now.

The original post from Nov 2, 2015 follows:
Got word from our coding partners that the videos issues should be resolved.

So we need to test! As people upload videos, if they work or don’t work, I need details about about kind of web browser is being used to upload or view. Also what the video format was in the original upload.

Our updated video thing is supposed to convert videos to a proper format and they should hopefully work for everyone whether it’s a desktop / laptop or mobile phone / tablet.

Looking forward to all this working!

Anyone who uploaded a video in the past couple weeks may need to re-upload, as from what I have seen most of those did not work properly.

Thanks for hanging in with us as we iron things out!

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fixing videos issues

We are working on fixing the issues that some are having with uploading videos and other are having with viewing them. It’s been such a strange issue; viewing vids works on some devices and not others, while uploading videos has become a similarly weird thing as well. we’ve spent a lot of time trying to hash out what the issues could be, and it looks like we are closer to getting the issue resolved.

Our coding partners have finally been able to see the exact errors that our premium video converter thing was pulling – so now they are onto re-creating the issue in their lab and should be figuring out a solution soon, hopefully this week.

Sincere apologies and much appreciation to all of you that have encountered issues with the videos here! we have been trying to get all this working right. Lots of people chimed in with issues and many were willing to explain what device they were using and which browser. Some people even took the time to download other web browsers like mobile firefox to see if the issue persisted when using the same device. In a few cases we found that the firefox browser would play some videos on a mobile device when other browsers would not – but that was not the only issue apparently.

Good news is we have been able to zero in on a couple of errors and should be coming up with a solution soon!

Now if we can just get this video thing all fixed up, next I will spend some time and money working on the planned upgrade to our chat rooms system.

block user update

Had to push a small update to the “block user” function / button today. There is a chance that previously blocked people were erased from the system – so you may need to “re-block” someone that you had before. We had a small chunk of code that was affecting page load time, and that is fixed now. In the process we may have lost previous settings – but the old settings may still be in place – not sure yet at this point.

If anyone can report that previously blocked people are still in their “blocked users list” – or not I’d appreciate it. Sorry if this affects anyone in a bad way – this was an unexpected update and probably done before I had enough espresso getting the brain to full on all cylinders. If we need to update this code chunk again in the future we will do in it a slightly different manner.

Hugs everyone.

Block user feature

If someone is sending you unwanted messages or annoying you in some other way, simply click their profile and click the block button.

When you block another user they:

cannot see any of your activity on the site.
cannot send or reply to a message – they will get a custom error notice
cannot visit your profile page – they will be sent to the home page
cannot see you on the Members page or a Group Members page
cannot send you a friendship request
will no longer be your friend, if that friendship existed

This is brand new code and we can not guarantee that everything is going to work properly, so use with caution. Do not count no the block or mute functions work as expected. We hope they do though!
Since these are new features we are looking for feedback if anything gets messed up – these are beta testing things, hopefully they work great and don’t mess anything else up! At this point we hope to keep these features, but if something doesn’t work right we may need to pull this code and try something else at another time.

The ability to block annoying users has been requested from several members, and it’s something we have had on our to do list for way too long. Hopefully people will not need to use these features very often, but those who do want them I hope it makes the site a better experience for you! We are always looking for ways to make things better here, sometimes it takes much longer than we planned to make these changes – but we are working on this thing every day.

Hopefully these updates make the site better for everyone, and easier to customize your own experience here.

The mite feature was tested for a day and has become a work in future progress.

Planning to make a more complete “how-to” page for these features showing some of the other details about them. For now these features are available to test.

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